IT'S OVER, SO WHY CAN'T I STOP THINKING ABOUT MY EX?...

A member of GLS named, Kaylyn wrote in that she has moved on to a new relationship with a decent guy that she cares for. They met through another couple and have been dating for over a year. The new boyfriend was going through a difficult time when they met and she was there for him. She moved into the perfect girlfriend role pretty quickly and has been holding him down every since. The new boyfriend has a new job and a new outlook on life now, all because of Kay. She helped him to find a job, get his personal business in order and was even there to help him through various family ups and downs. She says that although her current boyfriend is not perfect, she truly enjoys their relationship and has high hopes for a future together. The only thing is, she can't stop wondering about her ex. She wonders how far they could've gone in their relationship had his sister not interfered which eventually caused them to break up. She says her ex was kind hearted and made her feel special. He didn't make as much money as she does either, but he made up for it in different ways. He since then has tried to rekindle their relationship, but Kay didn't want to play games with him or her current man so she declined.
My response to Kay is this:


Dear Kay,

The reason that you're still wondering about how things "could've turned out" with your ex is because he made you feel special in a way that you still remember. From jump street with your new boyfriend you've been his knight in shining armor. You've played the Captain Save a H** role with him the entire time the two of you have been together. Sure, you enjoy yourself with him, but it doesn't come without a price. For every time you enjoy yourself with him, he turns right back around and needs you to put on a hard hat and some steel toe boots. Your roles are reversed. You are the dude and he is the broad. This has nothing to do with you acting masculine or him acting feminine, it's strictly role reversal. So it seems, IT'S ALL ABOUT HIM.  Honey, you need a break! You must be exhausted. On the other hand, when you speak of your ex, it seems that IT WAS ALL ABOUT YOU. That is an awesome feeling for a woman to experience with a man. You didn't mention that the two of you had any real problems other than his Ugly sister! (GLS really sticks up for their members) This is the reason that you keep wondering if things could've been different between you and your ex. You miss that special feeling that he provided and that is so important to a woman. I suggest you take a pause for the cause (the cause is your sanity) to see if your new boyfriend will pick up and carry the ball in your relationship. Hopefully then he will be able to create that special feeling for you. No woman should be deprived of that feeling. Don't short change yourself. You are a beautiful person. Anyone that would jump in to help somebody the way that you've helped him deserves the best. For more info on love and relationships stay tuned in to GLS or contact Gracie directly @gracielovestrategies@gmail.com